How to rekindle the fire when all feels dull or boring is a relationship skill of great value. Even better, before it becomes so. Long-term partnerships and even not so long become subject to everyday tedium and the glow wares off and normality sets in. That is unless we consciously choose otherwise. What first attracted you to your partner may now be the subject of annoyance. So you may like to experiment with a few ideas to bring some juice back.
1. Have a date night: Set time aside to really enjoy each other again. Away from the phone, email, kids and office. Go somewhere new, do something different, experiment with having fun, take it in turns to choose. Make time for intimacy and play.
2. Be real with each other: passion comes from being close and not avoiding the issues. When we get used to pretending and not speaking up, when we don’t acknowledge how we truly feel and express openly and honesty our desires and needs, then our relationships become stale and can feel fake. The distance between us can feel like a great chasm.
3. Make time for eye contact: really meet each other. Be prepared to look deeply and see the person behind the behaviors you have become used to. Look into their essence and their soul and be present to who they are in this moment in time, different from this morning and different from last week or last month.
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