Think about and take responsibility for yourself in your relationships! Take the focus off blaming, criticising and making others wrong, and ask instead: how may I make this situation better?- Be prepared to listen more than you talk! Do not talk over others, interrupt or cut them off. Listen for the feelings and meaning behind the words. 85% of communication is non-verbal!
- Call a time out when an argument is about to do damage, no matter how right you feel you are, do not let that become more important than the person with whom you are connected.
- Beware of abruptness in your communication: it communicates contempt.
- Be alert to evasiveness: “I’ll pick you up later” or “I’ll pick you up between 4.30 and 5!” Human beings are not meant to be mind readers! Those of us that have that capacity work as clairvoyants, and that leaves the large majority of the rest of the population. If you have a predisposition to secrecy, tidy up your communication and do not leave people not knowing where they stand or what is going on.
- Be prepared to follow through on what you say you will do! Honour your words with integrity in your actions.
- Do not be condescending in your communication. The laugh that implies that the other person is a fool, masks a feeling of inferiority. Instead try accepting yourself and others, just as they are.
- Find nurturing ways to comfort and console yourself and others. This brings energy and healing and provides a platform for security and happiness in relationships.
- Be a leader in your relationships. People are precious. Do not take them for granted.
- Back to the beginning for it is the most important and is the beginning and end of all that is achievable in relationships. Take responsibility for your part. The failure to initiate difficult conversations, the inability to repair when you have caused hurt, the holding onto resentment and bitterness long after the incident has passed. Be prepared to start again.
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About Margie Ulbrick Relationship Counselling
Margie Ulbrick relationship counselling provides psychotherapy services for relationships, stress management and happiness. Margie Ulbrick Counselling offices are based in East Malvern, Melbourne and service the surrounding areas of Chadstone, Glen Iris, Armadale, Ashburton, Malvern, Carnegie, Kew, South Yarra, Toorak, and East St Kilda.
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